So you think you have a close, special relationship that needs no help in the intimacy department? Maybe your partner doesnt think so. This article will tell you if you have the intimacy required to Co-Create a Conscious Relationship. If you need some pointers, we have them here, too.

The first step is to Co-Create a safe and positive space to share your inner-most thoughts and feelings. In a zone of safety, trust, and respect, youll know that you will be heard, validated, and empathized with. If the message sounds familiar, recall that Conscious Listening is the beginning of intimacy. Through this technique, you will establish an atmosphere in which you share your Intimacy Languagecommunicating your deepest intimate needs, desires, and dreamswith your partner. This is the bedrock of emotional bonding.

The next step is to learn: What is your definition of intimacy? How do you want your partner to treat you so you feel loved unconditionally? Which words do you need to hear? How do you want to be touched and kissed? How do you want to be treated before you make love? How do you want to display affection at home and in public? How do you want to be pampered? Which actions give you goose bumps and touch your soul?

The last step is to share your Intimacy Language with your partner. You must be clear about what you want so you can coach your partner to learn. Most couples fail to express their preferences. Some lack self-awareness; others do not know how to discuss their desires. Many are emotionally blocked and feel unsafe in expressing their true feelings and thoughts; some are afraid of being shamed, disappointed, invalidated, or rejected.

You must tell your partner what you need because he or she cannot read your mind. Off-the-cuff comments and innuendos are not substitutes for plain language. Guessing leads to disappointment, frustration, resentment, contempt, and anger. All the positive air in your balloon will be released, leaving you feeling flat and empty.

I hope you and your partner
Gain the Awareness, Learn the Skills and
Practice the Techniques so you are successful on your
Journey from I-TO-WE to live your lives as each others

Best Friends During the Day,
Lovers at Night, and
Partners for Life

2006 All Rights Reserved Glenn Cohen
I-TO-WE Relationship Coaching