Do you find yourself asking, Where did all the romance go? Do you still feel the spark enough to romance your partner? In order to achieve passion in a relationship, you must be consciously aware to listen, understand, and speak each others Passion Language. On your Journey from I-TO-WE, you are working toward creating passion for a lifetime. Conscious Romance is the first step in the equation for passion. This assessment rates the way you romance each other.

This free set of assessments offers you the chance to find powerful answers. If you are willing to take the time to reflect on these questions, discuss them, and be honest with yourselves and each other, it can help you on your journey to Co-Create a Conscious Relationship so you can be

The adventure of life gives us the incredible opportunity to learn and grow as individuals. I like to say that we do not stop learning, stretching, growing, maturing, and changing until we are 6 feet under. What happens so often is we go through life unaware that we dont know what we dont know. In this fast-paced world, many of us do not have or take the time to sit, take a deep breath, and really think about the statements addressed in these assessments. We usually do not reflect on and consider the impact the answers to these statements can have on our relationship. We must gain the awareness, learn the techniques, and practice the skills to Co-Create a Conscious Relationship.

Take your time to think about each statement and be honest. One partner should use a black pen and the other partner a red pen. Rate your degree of agreement for each statement on a scale from 1 to 10, with 10 being a definite yes and 1 being a definite no. Write your score on the first line to the left of each statement. The second line is for your partners score.

You may find it difficult to give certain statements a low score. You may worry that your response will hurt or offend your partner or create conflict. Honesty, however, is critical for the success of the Co-Create a Conscious Relationship program. Also, no matter what score your partner writes down, be supportive; do not get defensive, resentful, or angry. Thank him or her for being courageous and honest. All of the topics in this assessment series are covered in detail, with exercises, in my book The Journey from I-TO-WE.

Conscious Romance

_____ _____ - 1 - We know how our partner wants to feel special, safe, loved, and cared for.

_____ _____ - 2 - We give each other gifts of loving actions every day.

_____ _____ - 3 - We give each other gifts of unexpected surprises.

_____ _____ - 4 - We plan activities to create excitement in our relationship.

_____ _____ - 5 - We give our gifts unconditionally, with no expectations.

_____ _____ - 6 - We show appreciation and affection when we receive a gift.

_____ _____ - 7 - We know our partners romance language and speak it every day.

_____ _____ - 8 - We feel joy when we make our partner smile.

_____ _____ - 9 - We are inspired to romance our partner every day.

_____ _____ - 10 - We enjoy recreational activities together.

_____ _____ - Total Score
You have 10 statements for a total possible score of 100. If your total is:

80 or higher -- You scored in the upper percentile Congratulations! You have obviously taken the time to work, ensuring your relationship has the best chance to be successful. Though your relationship is strong, it can only benefit from gaining new awareness, new skills, and new techniques. Good luck in Co-Creating a Conscious Relationship!

60 79 -- You scored in the average range Congratulations! Re-read the statements you scored low on and take the time to learn how to raise your score. Consider Co-Creating a Conscious Relationshipthrough gaining new awareness, new skills, and new techniques. You and the relationship will be much stronger on The Journey from I-TO-WE.

0 59 -- You scored in the lower range Congratulations! You now know where you need to take the time to closely examine these areas of your relationship. It would benefit both of you to think about these statements, and work toward Co-Creating a Conscious Relationship through gaining new awareness, new skills, and new techniques. Commit to each other to give unselfishly and unconditionally to do whatever you need to do to make each other feel safe, loved and cared for