Life has a way of creating roadblocks that end up as building blocks in our lives" Doug Firebaugh

I started thinking about this and decided that it is true, but only if we see it that way. Then we must begin to use those roadblocks to rebuild our lives. I was talking with a client today about just that. We were talking about beliefs. What are beliefs? I asked her. After some thought and a great deal of silence and some brief discussion, she said, Beliefs are just thoughts that we have decided are true. Yea. Our beliefs are not necessarily right or wrong, true or not, they are just what we believe. Henry Ford said it this way, If you think you can or you think you cant, either way youre right.

Take our beliefs about what happens to us when we die, for example. Some people believe that we ascend into heaven or descend into hell. Others believe that we see a tunnel and a bright, warm, loving, inviting light at the end that is calling us home. Some believe that we simply stop breathing and thats it. What ever you believe, can you prove it? How do you know for sure that its true?

And thats the point. Ultimately we are just making it up. Think about it. Your beliefs are just stories you have repeated over and over to yourself, and then looked for evidence to support them, and as a result, decided that they are true. You then looked for more evidence to support what you have decided to believe and that convinces you that you have proof! So, ask yourself, do your beliefs support you in living your best life? Do your beliefs inspire you to be your highest vision of yourself? If not, why not change them. After all if you are making it up anyway, at least make up something that supports you. Try this exercise. Step 1: If you dont already have a rock collection, go for a walk somewhere in nature or just around your neighborhood and collect two dozen rocks. Find ones you like. Choose ones that really catch your eye, that you think are really cool! Make sure that none are bigger than the palm of your hand.

Step 2: sit down and list out all your beliefs about yourself and why your life is the way it is. Do you believe you are the captain of your own destiny or that you are at the mercy of circumstances? Do you believe that you are easy to love or that you are over the hill and no one will want to be with you? Do you believe that you have enough of the goodies that life has to offer, or that you are always on the short end of the stick? List them all, one by one, dont exclude any. Be honest. No one will read them but you. Leave a few spaces between each one. Once you are sure you have them all listed, cut them up into strips.

Step 3: get out your rock collection and match each belief to a rock. Let your intuition guide you here. Tape each belief to a rock and put them all in a box in a closet for 3 days.

Step 4: on the 4th day, take it out. Look them over and divide the rocks/beliefs into 2 piles, ones to keep and ones to let go of. Choose only those beliefs that really serve you in being and living your best life, to keep. The rest, put them in the to let go of pile.

Last step: take the rocks/beliefs you want to keep and put them into a beautiful box. Put them somewhere safe. Take the rocks/beliefs you want to let go of out to the nearest lake or large body of water. Stand on the shore and pick them up one at a time. Read what is taped to the rock, remind yourself why you want to let it go, kiss it goodbye and throw it into the lake!

My client asked, You mean I have to throw away all my beautiful rocks? Only if you want to release those beliefs that do not serve your highest and best good. I replied. If you are having trouble releasing beliefs that are no longer serving you, I can help. As a coach, thats part of what I do.

Rebuilding alone can be a daunting and sometimes overwhelming task. However with support, the task becomes manageable and the roadblocks do indeed become building blocks. If you find yourself at that juncture, some one-on-one coaching can make all the difference. Whether once a week or once a month or something in between, don't be afraid to ask for assistance. Coaching is all done over the phone, so your location is not a factor. The only prerequisite is your willingness to see things differently and ask for support.

If you have been disappointed in love, or feel that your life is not the way you would like it to be, you may want to consider taking my Soulmate Success Training class, or doing some one-on-one coaching. In Soulmate Success Training, we spend a lot of time on identifying the things you need in a relationship in order to be your best self. Do you know what yours are? How do you identify them? How do you look for them? Why are they so important?